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how to deal with a miscarriage/ baby loss

Having suffered a miscarriage a year and 4 days ago, losing my twins was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through, and that's coming from someone who watched there girlfriend die, watching there best friend die from cancer, losing my stepdad and great grandad all within a few years period.

Dealing with a miscarriage is never easy, and having talked to women who have had multiple miscarriages, it doesn't sound like it gets any easier, but there are many ways to help cope. Even though it doesn't take the pain away completely, it may help lessen it; how to deal with a miscarriage


  1. Miscarriage hearts: in New Zealand, we have a nonprofit organization called huggable hearts, which makes rice-filled hearts at any weight you want to comfort you in your recovery. I got two, one for each of the babies I lost when your order; you get one more added on, representing you. Try and look up to see if where ever you are in the world if they have something similar. 



  2. Baby send aways are an amazing way to show there lives through your eyes. If you want some inspiration, go watch my baby send away, but you can do whatever you want to.
  3. Thumbnail for my baby send away video
  4. if you had a stillborn, ask to hold your baby if you can and have some time with your baby.

4. RUSH into anything. Don't rush into picking up your baby stuff until you feel you're ready. It can be a stressful time, and rushing into anything isn't good for you.

5.spend time grieve, cry, sleep all day, eat tons of junk food, watch sad movies, do whatever you feel up to and don't push yourself to do anything your not able to do. You have gone through a serious loss and need to grieve, so do it whatever way you feel you can, and you're up to doing it.

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